Psychologist Arthur Aron’s question exercise is often described as a formula for falling in love. Its real strength is simpler: two people gradually share more personal thoughts while giving each other undivided attention.
Begin lightly, then move toward memories, values, hopes and fears. Do not race through the list. The quality of listening matters more than completing every question.
Use it as inspiration, not an interview
Choose questions that fit the moment and answer them yourself. Mutual openness creates closeness; interrogation does not.